SELF CONFIDENCE
Everyone has a few confidence problems, whether pertaining to sex, dating, marriage or something else. There are things that we would like to change about ourselves, things that we are sure must be glaringly obvious to members of the opposite sex. So how can we overcome sexual self confidence issues, and how can we know if we are obviously intimidated?Make friends with yourself
Many people say they are lonely, even when they have a partner at their side. This is simply because they have not yet made friends with themselves.
Make friends with yourself. Spend time noticing who you are. Accept all parts of yourself. Stop judging and rejecting what is going on inside. Be still and look within.
Start with this exercise. Pay attention to your breath and just notice what is going on. Let it be. Accept it, and return to the breathing. Understand that, breath by breath, underneath the clamor, you are perfect just as you are. Can you choose to be this natural self in relationships? Can you choose to have relationships with those who want and appreciate just what you are? Making positive changes in your life -- and your relationships -- can start with something as simple as taking off your shoes.
HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN FALL DEEPLY IN LOVE WITH YOU
The avenue to Romance is littered with road kill hearts and unanswered love. If you think you're unique in your loneliness, think again. There is enough dashboards pounding out there to start a global orchestra of dreadful distress.
But don't despair. Before you spin out of control, organize the airbags fast. These strategic exercises should cruise you back on track:
1) Dress to Kill - all the time: No I don't intend that You wear that $5000 suit to the grocers or the Rolex to walk the dog. What I want you to do is to dress decently each time you hit the streets. Dab on some cologne. Be neatly shaven. Men, women are everywhere. If you dress with flash only at the bar or the party, you're missing out on 95% of eligible women. Some of the best relationships were forged during chance encounters at the bus stop.
2) Bedroom Eyes - When exploring new relationships with that sexy stranger, intensify the eye contact. Lock deep into her pupils. Let the rest of the world vanish even as a crowd of super models crowd by. You will naturally thrill her with the attention as she experiences the tendril of growing attraction. Ethnologists have a term for it, the copula Tory gaze. Get your eyes even sexier by enlarge your pupils. Dr. Hess concluded that dilate pupils are far more attractive to women after he presented hundreds of assorted pictures of men to test subjects. How does one get the pupils popping? Simply gaze at the most attractive parts of her face and fill your mind with loving caring thoughts. Your pupils naturally grow, endowing you with tempting eyes.
3) Visual touch - Get your eyes do some facial traveling as you chat. hang back a bit on the nose, walk across the eyes and rest at the lips. Drink in her facial features as though you were admiring the Mona Lisa. She will delight in the attention!
4) Easter seed - confused at having nothing to say? Listen carefully for Easter seed as you talk. These are unusual words of phrases that she utters. Ask her to explain on it. Say "What's the story behind that?" or "How do you feel about that?". Women love to be probed for their opinions and their feelings. Gently bring out her emotions with sensitive open-ended questions.
5) Keep it Adrenaline exciting - Men talk facts: stock figures, bill payments, and boring engine specs. Women are different. They delight in FEELINGS TALK: how the new dress takes them to 7th heaven, how that special meal got them all giddy with ecstasy, how their shopping expedition drains their deepest problems away. control this by steering away from facts talk. Pick out emotionally charged subjects and ask her how she especially relates to them. You'll be her new confidant!
I know what you're thinking. It's all common sense! That's true, but ask yourself this: how many of you actually practice this? Be honest.
Get out there and be the man women loves. Use your common sense!
HOW TO MAKE A MAN FALL DEEPLY IN LOVE WITH YOU
There is a lot of talk among women about finding Mr. Right, and there seems to be a common consensus that finding him is a near impossible task. A Woman who is supposed to have found him is envied and bombarded with questions as to how she landed him. The problem with this Mr. Right theory is that it implies that women are automatically Ms. Rights. Unfortunately, this is not true. We are not all wonderful, innocent, drama-free damsels waiting patiently for our Mr. Right. It’s hard to admit, but women are capable of doing just as much lying, cheating, and gaming as men.If you expect to find a man that is free from game- playing, lying, cheating, and deceiving, be committed to being that kind of person yourself. Make a conscious effort to treat others with respect. Decide to be open and honest with others, decide to share and give of yourself, and decide to live up to the truthfulness and justice in which you believe. The closer you move toward becoming Ms. Right the sooner you will attract Mr. Right because people of like mines, words, and deeds are drawn to one another.
I began the slow and steady development toward being a better person. Two years later I married a great man, and we have been in a twelve- year marriage that is sincere, respectful, and free of game playing. Not to involve that we have not hurt each other because we have. It’s hard to avoid hurting each other in any relationship. However come together in respect and honesty to work out our problems, and try really hard to be the best we can be for each other. We own our emotions, and share how we feel with the knowledge that it may get ugly at times, but we can get through it.
exciting it up: Observe how you work together with the men in your life. Think about what you might be with holding, hiding, sneaking, lying about, cheating, and the games you may be playing. In your heart, you will recognize right from wrong because God made it so. The next time you feel like what you are about to do is wrong do not give in. Do what is right! Then ask yourself what motivated you to want to do wrong. Why did you feel justified to do the wrong thing? It is not because you are a bad person it probably has more to do with emotions like fear, anger, frustration, envy or disappointment. Remember it is okay to feel these emotions because God made them, but it is not okay to react destructively because of what you feel.
HOW TO PLEASE A WOMAN - KNOWING WHAT WOMEN WANT
it is true. Women can be complicated creatures. But what human being isn’t? Although we each have our own needs, quirks and foibles, when it comes down to it, there are a few basic things that every woman wants. Now it’s up to the men to pay attention. The Gender Gap
Men aren’t listening. And I don’t really blame them. I don’t even like Sex and the City so I can’t expect my boyfriend to faithfully watch every episode and quote it like some almighty dating bible. Although that show is full of things that men would (rightfully) shrink at, there are points to observe. Namely, clinches exist for a reason.
The things that seem painfully obvious to women are going unnoticed by men, likely because they haven’t spent hours happily identifying with women indulging in insecurities and sharing laughs about terrible dates. So women – give your man a break here and realize that although you feel busy with ideas for dating, romance and sex, many men have put the blinders on because those things just don’t seem important to them. That is, until they are left out in the cold, heartbroken because the girl of their dreams gave them the boot for seemingly no reason.
Pay Attention Boys
Here’s the thing – women want a few basic things: trust, loyalty, friendship, laughs, respect. And a satisfying sex life. Nothing earth shattering.
Here’s where we get annoyed – when things about women that seem built into pop culture, escape your minds. I understand that you may not want to watch Oprah and see every “chick flick” out there but there are certain things that you really should know by now.
To clarify:
- · We do not like to be called fat.
- · We need foreplay.
- · We like to be called if you are going to be late.
These are three little things that can make a huge difference in a relationship. Maybe they don’t seem like a big deal to you men or maybe you don’t understand, but we don’t need you to. Just do them. Please.
Be a Gentleman If you want to go above and beyond the basics, it’s also good to keep in mind that women like to be treated nicely. Again, I wouldn’t think you’d have to be told and I’m sure many of you don’t, but lately I’ve been hearing some pretty incredible stories from friends. In one story, a guy asked my friend out, took her to a bar, ordered her a drink and then summoned her to come pay for hers. Boy was she swept off her feet!
Mutual enjoyment
I’m sure no man goes out with the intention of trying a girl or being insensitive. There are differences between how men and women relate, so it should be expected on both ends by now that things don’t always progress seamlessly.
The effort really does make a difference. We are all from different walks of life and have different expectations for each other and for life in general. Women want to be appreciated, as I’m sure men do. It may seem crazy to you if a girl flies off the handle because you were an hour late, but the thing is, women can be a little crazy. Evidently unbeknownst to some of you, women spend hours primping and preparing for dates, for our boyfriends, even for our husbands. Legs must be shaved, makeup applied, hair done so that we feel attractive and sexy for you!
If a woman does something nice for you and you notice, (please tell me you notice), tell her. If she cooks you dinner, try to return the favor. Be honest and supportive and she will do the same for you.
WAYS TO INCREASE YOUR LOVE
For most couples, whether married or in a long-term relationship, it can be a difficult transition once the "honeymoon" stage is over. The initial lust and butterflies in the stomach you once felt may have given way to a more laid-back, comfortable feeling with your significant other. It is normal for long-standing relationships to cool down after a while and this is when the real relationship building begins.A good partnership is like tending to a pet - either you feed and nurture it, or bad things will happen. The small things you do become important. Daily habits help to forge strong relationships and marriages. It can be as simple as remembering to tell your partner "I love you," everyday.
If you are really serious about making your relationship work, there are several little rituals that you can incorporate into your daily life.
Talk To Each Other
Most relationship experts would agree that talking is the most important elements of a strong partnership. Happy couples typically say their relationship works better when they can sit down one-on-one, share their feelings and work out their frustrations. Topics of discussion can extend past your relationship. Talk about work, how your day is going, or something funny that happened to you.
Many couples may complain that it is hard to find time in their busy day to have a daily couple's paw-wow. Well, it doesn't have to be an hour-long psych session each day. You simply have to set aside a few minutes for your special someone. For example, do a "weather" check during the day. Call your partner at home or at work to see how his/her day is going. By doing this, you will be more in sync when you reconnect after work.
If you have a pet dog, how about walking it together every night? The quiet time and fresh air can be your chance to focus on each other. If you have missed each other during the day, be sure to catch up at night right before going to bed. It is in this relaxed atmosphere that you can unwind and tell your partner about your busy day.
When you live together, you may automatically think you know everything about your lover. In reality though, it is very easy for life to get in the way if you don't take the time to connect with each other.
Flirt
Flirting isn't just for teenagers and couples on their first date. Part of a healthy sexual relationship involves flirting with each other everyday. And it doesn't just have to be a form of foreplay. Even on the nights when you are just too doggone tired to be intimate in bed, flirting can be a fun way to keep the zest in your relationship.
Don't be embarrassed about flirting in public either. Show off the strength of your relationship with a little PDA (public displays of affection). Walk hand in hand and try to steal a quick hug or kiss whenever you can. Most importantly, don't forget to say "I love you," as much as possible throughout the day.
Declare Your
Remember that healthy relationships are made up of two independent people who have their own personalities and interests. It's not good for the relationship to be constantly joined at the hip. So also make a daily habit of getting away from each other. examine your own hobbies and interests.
Doing things separately gives you a chance to fill in the blanks that your partner may not be able to fill for you. For example, if one of you likes sports and the other likes the arts, use your alone time to go to the gym or enroll in a painting class. At the end of your day, you will find that you have more to talk about. It will help bring freshness to the relationship, as you both continue to grow as people.
Cultivate Common Interests
Along with developing your personal interests, apart from one another, it is also essential to find something you can do together. The importance is on finding an activity you can both enjoy. Although your definition of fun may be going shopping, he may not enjoy being dragged along.
If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. Try working out at the gym together. Or take some classes together until you find something you both like. Maybe you'll both fall in love with cooking and connect each night by preparing dinner together.
Sympathetic YOUR GIRLFRIEND
Women are complex creatures, sometimes infuriatingly so. There are times when we make the men in our lives want to throw up their hands in defeat and say, "I'll just never understand what women want!" Don't give up hope. Sometimes the key to understanding your girl is to read between the lines of what she's saying to discover what she really means.
It's not entirely our fault that we have this round about way of communicating. Boys are taught from a young age that asking for what they want is the best way to get it, while girls are encouraged to use our "feminine wiles" to movement our way into what our heart desires.
It doesn't help that a straightforward persistent woman in our society is often tagged with unfair labels like "bitch" or "ball breaker". So instead of being direct, we sometimes take the long way to getting to what we really mean. To help you understand, there are certain things you can look for to help you decode the meaning behind your girlfriend's words.
She Wants To Be Babied
"I had a really busy day" = "I need some pampering"
When your girl complains about her long hard day, there's a good chance it's not just to get it off her chest. She wants you help her relax, but instead of just asking you for a back massage, or to run her a hot bath, she feigns helplessness so you'll be able to sweep in as her man and fix everything for her.
It's hard for a modern feminist woman to ask for help from her man. We all want to believe we can take care of ourselves, but there are times when we just want to be coddled a little bit. So, instead of being annoyed by her whining, do the smart thing and ask her what she needs to unwind. Trust me, you'll reap the rewards later.
It's Time to Talk
You can tell something is bothering your girl, but when you ask she says nothing is wrong. Don't be fooled, she really does need to talk. She just wants you to press her a little. If you insist on asking what's wrong it convinces her that you really want to hear about her problems and help resolve them.
Try to encourage her to open up without troublesome. Instead, let her know that you are concerned and open to listening. She really does want to tell you about the fight she had with her best friend or how much getting passed over for that promotion at work upset her, but unless you show genuine interest, she'll probably keep it bottled up.
The only time this translation may not be accurate is when she's upset about something you did. In this case, she may really need some space and time to think before she confronts you with it.
She's Feeling unsure of yourself
You've just run into your ex-girlfriend while walking down the street with your current one. You can tell that the unexpected meeting has your girl exhausted, but she insists she's not threatened.
What NOT to do in this situation is charge her of being mistrustful or joke about how cute she is when she's jealous. The right thing to do here is to reassure her of your love and devotion without being too clear about it. Try something like, "Wow, seeing Suzy again just makes me realize how perfect you and I are together."
She Wants to Get Serious
Stereotypically; guys are all commitment phoebes while their girls are fervently awaiting him dropping to one knee in the perfect moment of romantic dedication. This may not be universally true, but there's a good chance she's looking toward the next stage in your relationship before you've even entertained the concept.
Not wanting to come on too fast or too strong, she'll probably be fairly hesitant to come right out and say she'd like to be your girlfriend or that she thinks that it's time you moved in together. Make it easy on her by being honest and clear about your feelings and intentions. If you're not quite ready to pledge monogamy, say so, but tell her that you think it's a big step, something you don't want to take lightly.
Ask for some time to think about it. Never make a commitment that you're not willing to follow through on. If you're not done playing the field, don't give the impression that you are. It will only lead to heartbreak.
HOW KNOW IF YOUR LOVER IS CHEATING - CATCH A CHEATER
I think almost everybody could agree with me on this one: The only thing worse than finding out that your spouse is a cheater does not know. Not knowing if your partner is faithful can eat away at you and cause pain that can last months or even years. unfaithfulness is the worst form of disrespect and can leave wounds that won’t heal for a long time, if ever. Before we dive into mean ways that you can catch your partner red handed, lets first discuss why people cheat. I have often thought to myself, Why is it that animals are able to stay faithful to each other for a lifetime, while many humans can not seem to handle this task for more than a matter of months? The fact is that humans are the only creatures that realize they have a choice to how many partners they chose to have at a single moment in time. In addition, in recent studies, scientists have found that males with higher than average testosterone levels may be at greater risk of being involved in extramarital affairs than males with low testosterone levels. However, unlike animals, we have the ability to make decisions. We are able to make ineffective these hormones at any given time. Still, many chose not to. Testosterone or no testosterone, I still think cheating ultimately has to do with unhappiness. And, due to our ability to make decisions, those who chose to cheat go to great lengths to hide their affair. This is because they know what they are doing is wrong. This is why people who are cheaters are often hard to catch. So on that note, here are some potential signs that your partner may be cheating: 1. Change in Usual Work Pattern: Extended hours or possibly even over night shifts. This is the most popular excuse used by a cheating partner.
2. Phone Turned Off/Not Returning Calls: If you try to contact your partner during times that you are suspicious of them being unfaithful and they do not answer the phone or answer it but quickly find a reason to hang up with you, there’s a good chance that they are not being faithful.
3. Change in General Attitude: If your husband/wife suddenly makes it apparent that they are bored around you, or maybe seem overly excited on particular days, this could be a sign that they are having a relationship with somebody else. Sometimes a cheating mate may even become very angry or not want to handle simple arguments.
4. Lack of Money: Generally speaking, a deceptive partner will be spending time, as well as money, on their new date. The amount spent may greatly affect their usual income, depending on how much they are looking to impress their new partner.
5. Change in dress: The sudden urge to dress attractively or get a new hairstyle, shave often, etc may be due to the fact that your partner is looking to appear more attractive to another individual.
6. Change in Relationship: If your partner suddenly stops confiding in you or seeking your advice this may be due to them finding it elsewhere.
7. New Hobbies: A cheating spouse may take interest in new things that don’t add up - such as new music, a new sport, etc.
8. Secretive Conversations: Does your partner run out of the room when he/she answers the phone to handle business? Or do they speak in a very low tone?
9. Deleted E-mails / Odd Computer Habits: If your husband/wife is startled by your presence when they are online or if they are constantly cleaning out their mailbox, there could be a reason for it. It is not normal behavior for a spouse to quickly exit off of a screen when someone enters the room unless they are planning a surprise vacation or doing something they know is wrong.
With that being said, here are some ways to catch a cheating partner :
1. Show up at your Spouses Work - Pick one of those days when they are working late and surprise them with a hot meal or desert. Make sure you have a reason for going up to their job so you don’t look too suspicious.
2. Check Mileage on their Car - This is a surefire way to see if your partner has been where they claim to have been. However, take into account if they needed to go to the bank or any other locations. A few extra miles here or there do not constitute as being disloyal.
3. Record Keep - Record dates and times of suspicious phone calls. If your mate is cheating you should be able to draw a conclusion that relates these times to other incidents. For example, if someone calls and hangs up on Wednesday evenings, followed by your partner getting called into work, this could be a tip for you to log.
4. Keep Quiet - Don’t open your mouth until you have the evidence you need for conviction. Telling your partner you think they may be seeing someone else will only complicate the patter because you have opened their eyes to the fact that they are not as sneaky as they would like to be.
5. Check Receipts - If you are able, check receipts found in pockets, the car, drawers, etc. If your partner is going out they are bound to eventually slip up and leave valuable evidence somewhere. Bank records of money withdrawals or credit card bills are also good ones. If looking at a credit card bill, pay close attention to detail, like where they are purchasing gasoline. Is it near your home? Or is it in a city that doesn’t fit into their usual travels?
6. Spy - If you are able to do your own surveillance or have a friend help you, do it. Watch what your partner is doing when they say they are working, etc.
7. Computer Research - Read e-mails, check cookies, etc. See what your partner is doing when they are online. Over half of cheating partners use the internet as a form of communication because it is easy and confidential. If you check your partners cookies you will be able to see what sites they are visiting. This can be very valuable, for example, if your partner’s e-mail address is mike@hotmail.com and the cookies say that they are constantly logging into a Yahoo account. later and things still don’t add up? What then? Be honest with yourself and your feelings up front.
Tips To Avoid Getting neglected
Fear of getting neglected is a constant worry of a relationship. You try to do your best to be together and happy but still there are times when that big question arises in your partner’s mind. Is this relation working? Are you seeing those signs in your partner which say loud and clear that its time to breakup? Well, you still have a chance to save it. Why not try some of these tips which can help you bring back that love in the relation.Talk, talk and talk:
Wise men have said that to solve any fight, misunderstanding or difference, have a nice long talk. So if you are feeling that your love is going to leave you, just talk with him/her. Try to find out the reason behind his/her intentions. If the problem is with you then convince your partner that you will change yourself.
Give your partner some space:
Too much of being with each other could be a reason that your partner is planning to break up. Try giving him/her more space. Let him/her go out and spend time with his/her friends. Staying away from you for a while might make your partner realize his/her love for you and want to be with you.
Plan a holiday:
Plan a vacation with your partner to sort out the trouble in your paradise. Away from the routine life and daily chores might help both of you come closer and bridge your differences. You’ll get to talk to each other and spend some quality time together without thinking about the regular stuff.
Stop being over possessive:
Are you over possessive and want to keep a constant check on your partner? Stop being one now if you want to save your relationship. Your girlfriend or boyfriend can have other guys or girls in their life as friends. Don’t get burning eyed every time you see them together. Its a big turn off.
Show your partner that you love him/her:
If you fear that your partner will call off the relationship then show him/her in a special way that you love him/her. Go out on dinner dates. Spend time doing things that you liked doing together in the beginning of your relationship. It might just reignite his/her feelings for you.
Take care of yourself:
It happens in a lot of relationships that people let go off themselves and their bodies. Try to go back being the same person whom your partner fell in love with. Groom yourself, lose those extra pounds and start looking good again to hold your partner’s interest in you.
These tips will be really helpful and can save you from a bitter heartbreak.
How to know whether a guy wants a relationship with you?
This is one question that haunt almost every girl world over at least once in her life duration. You had a wonderful time on a date but interpret the signals can be very difficult at times. Every individual is different and judge each person by a standard method is almost impossible. However, guys being guys, there are some little tips and tricks that can help a damsel in distress judge whether her guy would be interested or would it be better to offer goodbye to the relationship dreams.
The very first sign of whether the guy is interested in you is how much interest he shows after your date. If a guy does not call you after the first date, it is extremely evident that he does not want to see you again. This is applicable if he calls up after the date but makes excuses to avoid further meetings. On the other hand, a guy who genuinely likes you would want to see you again as soon as possible and would take the initiative of planning a second date. He would call you time and again and insist that you see each other on every possible opportunity. There is also a possibility that a guy cannot understand his feelings for you. In such a case, giving him time is the best possible solution. A relationship is one aspect of life in which rushing things often leads to twisted endings.When a guy likes a girl, he makes it evident in some of his actions and gestures. Respect is the keyword here. If your guy treats you with respect and dignity, you can be sure he has a little something for you. He would make you his top priority if he is genuinely interested. This would mean accommodating you in his busy schedules, calling back at the right time promised and trying his best to show that you are important to him, trying to energy you up if you are unhappy. For instance, if for some reason he is busy and does not take your call, he would call you the first thing when he gets free. When a guy is in love, his world would revolve around the girl.
A guy who is interested would take the effort of making you feel special. He would hang on to every word you say and try to incorporate bits of the conversation on to his life just to please you. Guys simply love pampering the girl who they feel is the one they would be in a relationship with. It could be through some special action like cooking you a meal or taking you out to a place you love or simply watching your favorite movie. It could also be through a little gift that would make you feel special. The gift is usually a little something, not too flashy or expensive. Usually, a guy has a fixed definition of pampering which is entirely different from spoiling. He would go out of the way to make you feel special but not to the point of making you feel that he’s buying his way in the relationship
Every guy in love would try to get his lady involved in his life and especially with the people and things that are important to him. He would want to open the doors of his world to you and would want you to be a part of his life if he wants to be in a relationship with you. So, he would introduce you to his parents, his friends, his social circle and colleagues. A guy would do this so that you understand him better as a person and he can share his feelings with you exclusive of any restriction. Another reason for this is so that you develop a feeling of mutual trust amongst yourselves and understand each other better. If a guy genuinely likes you, he would be nervous in front of his family and friends while introducing you and there would be a hint of teasing and smugness among them.
And last but not the least, a factor that may show you whether your guy’s interested or not is when there is a natural course among both of you. It is when neither of you try to mold yourselves to please the other and you accept the other person with their faults. A relationship grows and develops only once both the individuals are honest and truthful about themselves and there is absolutely no pretense or lies about them.
Reach His Heart Via His Stomach
Men love eating. Why not impress him with your cooking? Take a good cook book, find out what he likes to eat most and try to make a few dishes. Make sure you make something different or add something new so that he will love it. Make sure you taste what you have made first. Cook when you have at least 2 hours of free time so that you aren’t disturbed. Invite him to your home for some treats after you are done. Good luck.5 Easy Ways to Say "I Love You": Practical Tips on Getting Closer to Your Partner
- Simply reach out. Piglet reached out to Pooh and took his hand because he wanted assurance of love, attention, and affection. Physically reaching out to your partner can take you out of your comfort zone and improve your relationships. Reaching out does make you vulnerable to rejection but it also brings you out from behind your walls. Simply hugging or kissing to say "I love you" can improve your relationships.
- Take action. Don't wait for your lover, sister, or mother to reach out to you. Improve your relationships by dropping your pride, being honest, and telling them what you need. Piglet just wanted to know Pooh was there – maybe you need a similar reassurance, or something deeper. It doesn't matter; what matters is how you express your need when you're focused on improving your relationships. Say "I love you" by making the first move.
- Experiment. You need to try new things to find out what works when you're thinking about improving your relationships. Maybe holding hands doesn't do it for you, but a fifteen minute walk or telephone conversation might. If you've never taken a class or meditated with your partner to improve your relationship, maybe you should consider it as a way to say I love you!
- Make it daily. Improving your relationships involves discussions, ideas, new beginnings, old habits, sharing memories, making plans, spending time doing the mundane. Having a great relationship with anyone, even your brother or best friend or God, involves making a conscious choice every day.
- Communicate. Piglet talked to Pooh – if you think it's hard to talk to your lover, try being a pig and talking to your best honey bear friend! Piglet called Pooh by name, and verbally shared his reason for reaching out. Improving your relationships requires good communication.